3 Ways to Build Intimacy with Your Partner


Improving Your Romantic Relationship: Nurturing Love and Connection

Building and maintaining a strong romantic relationship can be challenging. Many couples find themselves facing obstacles that create distance and hinder intimacy. The demands of daily life, work-related stress, communication issues, and a lack of quality time can all contribute to a sense of disconnect and dissatisfaction in the relationship. If you’re feeling like your relationship is lacking the closeness and intimacy it once had, you’re not alone. In this article, we will explore effective strategies to address these challenges and build intimacy with your partner. By implementing these strategies, you can create a foundation of love, trust, and connection that will help you improve and strengthen your romantic relationship. While it’s common for all couples to go through “the blahs,” you don’t have to resign yourself to staying there.  Read on to find out how to build intimacy with your partner.

The Importance of Building Intimacy

Intimacy forms the foundation of a strong and fulfilling romantic relationship. It encompasses emotional, physical, and intellectual closeness, fostering a deep sense of connection and understanding between partners. Building intimacy is crucial for maintaining a healthy and thriving relationship.

3 Ways to Build Intimacy with Your Partner

1. Prioritize Quality Communication to Improve Intimacy

Communication is the lifeblood of any relationship. To build intimacy with your partner, it is essential to prioritize quality communication:

Active and Intentional Listening: Truly listening to your partner’s thoughts, feelings, and concerns without interruption or judgment is key to fostering intimacy. Practice active listening by giving your undivided attention, maintaining eye contact, and reflecting back on what your partner has shared. Thanks to the proliferation of digital media and mobile devices, we live in a world that seems to demand that we all become proficient multitaskers. The problem with this is, it’s hard to shut off this instinct. Most of us are hardly able to have a conversation with a loved one without checking our social media pages or texting a co-worker. This inability to STOP and focus on just being with our partner can absolutely kill intimacy.

Expressing Vulnerability: Sharing your thoughts, emotions, and vulnerabilities with your partner deepens intimacy. Create a safe space for open and honest communication, allowing both of you to express yourselves authentically without fear of judgment or criticism.

Appreciate All They Do: It’s entirely too easy to take our loved ones for granted. Reconnecting requires that we appreciate who they are and all that they do in our lives.

Think of some things that you appreciate about your partner and thank them. Perhaps they always take out the trash without being asked. Maybe they bring you a cup of coffee in the morning when you first wake up, or they do the dishes every night. Take the time to recognize their efforts and thank them from the heart. You will both feel great.

Regular Check-Ins: Set aside dedicated time to check in with each other regularly. Use this time to discuss your feelings, desires, and any issues that may arise. Regular check-ins promote ongoing emotional connection and prevent misunderstandings from escalating. If you struggle to know what to say during these check ins, there are some structured ways you can do that. Explore the Gottman Card Deck to help you talk about everything from your hope and dreams to sexual fantasies. If you are looking for a creative way to talk about sharing the load and household duties check out the Fair Play card deck.

2. Cultivate Shared Experiences to Build Intimacy

Shared experiences play a significant role in building intimacy. By creating moments of connection and shared joy, you can strengthen your bond with your partner:

Quality Time: Carve out intentional time to spend together, free from distractions. Engage in activities that you both enjoy and that foster connection, such as cooking together, taking walks, or planning date nights. The key is to prioritize dedicated time for one another. Here is a list of 25 date night ideas.

Adventure and Exploration: Explore new activities or hobbies together. This shared sense of adventure creates opportunities for growth and creates lasting memories. Whether it’s trying a new sport, taking a trip, or learning something new, shared experiences can deepen your connection.

Have Fun: Sure, building intimacy is important, but you don’t have to be so serious about it! One of the absolute best ways to reconnect with your partner is to laugh with them. This is especially true for people who have been together for quite a few years. You forget who each other used to be. But by experiencing novel and interesting activities together, you can learn new things about each other and see your relationship in a new light.

Emotional Support: Be there for each other during both the ups and downs of life. Show empathy, offer comfort, and provide a listening ear. Being emotionally supportive strengthens intimacy and builds trust between partners.

3. Nurture Physical Intimacy

Physical intimacy is an essential aspect of romantic relationships and contributes to overall relationship satisfaction. Here are some ways to nurture physical intimacy:

Affectionate Touch: Regularly engage in non-sexual physical touch, such as holding hands, hugging, or cuddling. These gestures foster a sense of closeness and connection.

Intimacy Rituals: Create rituals that enhance physical intimacy, such as kissing goodbye and goodnight, or initiating regular moments of intimacy and affection. These rituals help maintain a sense of desire and passion in your relationship.

Open Communication about Sexual Needs: Discussing your sexual needs openly and honestly with your partner can foster a deeper understanding of each other’s desires and boundaries. This communication helps create a safe and fulfilling sexual connection. If you’re interested in exploring more about female pleasure OMGYes, based on a large scale research conducted on female pleasure may be just what you need.


Improving your romantic relationship is a journey of continuous growth and investment. By prioritizing quality communication, cultivating shared experiences, and nurturing physical intimacy, you can build a deeper and more fulfilling connection with your partner. Remember, building intimacy requires ongoing effort and commitment from both partners, but the rewards are well worth it. Embrace these strategies and watch your relationship flourish and thrive.

If you and your partner are looking to improve your relationship and build a stronger sense of intimacy, Restore Renew Revive counselling & couples therapy is here to support you. Our experienced therapist specialize in helping couples enhance their connection and navigate challenges together.

Give us a call today at 902-702-7722 to schedule a consultation and take the first step towards restoring and renewing your relationship. You can also visit our website at https://restorecounselling.ca to learn more about our services and how we can assist you on your journey towards a happier and healthier relationship.

Don’t wait to invest in your relationship. Reach out to Restore Renew Revive counselling & couples therapy today and embark on a path towards a more fulfilling and intimate partnership.

Marcy is a Clinical Social Worker in Halifax, NS who specializes in helping women who are struggling with anxiety, people pleasing, perfectionism and low self esteem cope more effectively.  She also works with new moms who are experiencing challenges with the transition to parenthood and with people who experience chronic illness.  In addition she specialized in helping couples who are struggling in their relationship to learn to communicate more effectively and rebuild intimacy in their relationships.  If you’d like to book a free 15 minute consultation with Nancy click here. Or call (902) 702-7722 to schedule.

Marcy Daniels MSW, RSW

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