How to Get the Most Out of Couples Therapy


Couples Therapy: Strengthening Your Relationship Through Professional Support

Couples therapy, also known as couples counseling or relationship therapy, is a valuable resource for couples who want to enhance their relationship, resolve conflicts, and strengthen their bond. Whether you are facing specific challenges or simply seeking to improve communication and intimacy, couples therapy can provide a supportive and structured environment for growth.

Couples therapy can be a powerful change agent, there is no doubt about it. I have seen couples go from nearly ending their relationships to being back in love, and liking and respecting each other.

What do these successful couples do? The couples I have seen recover from marital issues and form an even stronger union have all had certain things in common. Here are some ways you and your partner can set yourselves up for success.

The Benefits of Couples Therapy

Couples therapy offers numerous benefits that can positively impact your relationship:

Enhanced Communication: Couples therapy helps you and your partner improve your communication skills, fostering understanding, empathy, and effective dialogue. It can help you become more reflective about they ways that you contribute to breakdowns in communication in your relationship and develop new ways of sending more clear signals about your needs.

Decreased Stress: Couples who have gone through Emotionally Focused Couples therapy are resources for each other during times of stress and can lessen the brains’ experience of pain.  In studies examining the impact of hand holding while being administered a shock while  the study participant was in an MRI scanning machine, found that the brain registered less distress when these connected couples were holding hands.

Strengthen Intimacy: Intimacy requires vulnerability and the ability to share your true thoughts, feelings, and desires with your partner. Couples therapy offers a safe space where both partners can express themselves honestly without fear of judgment or criticism. A skilled therapist can create an environment that encourages openness, allowing you and your partner to explore vulnerable topics and address emotional barriers that may hinder emotional and physical intimacy. Research shows that the gains in intimacy made through Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy endure over time.

Improved Problem-Solving: Through couples therapy, you can develop problem-solving skills that allow you to tackle challenges as a team, fostering a sense of unity and collaboration.

Relationship Enrichment: Even if your relationship is generally healthy, couples therapy can still be beneficial for enhancing your connection, exploring shared goals, and deepening your commitment to each other.

How to Benefit From Couples Therapy

1. Be Open and Honest

To maximize the benefits of couples therapy, it is crucial to be open and honest with your therapist and your partner. Share your thoughts, feelings, and concerns openly, and be receptive to feedback and insights from your therapist. It’s particularly important if there has been infidelity or other breaches of trust (financial, substance misuse, etc.) that these things not be held in secret from your partner. Honesty creates a foundation of trust and allows the therapy process to address the core issues effectively.

2. Commit to the Process

Couples therapy requires commitment from both partners. Attend sessions regularly and be prepared to invest time and effort in the therapy process. Many people come to couples therapy when their relationships are very distressed and get discouraged if significant changes have’t taken place within the first few sessions. It took time for your relationship to become strained and disconnected and for the negative cycle you are stuck in presently to become so entrenched. It will take some time for your relationship to recover. Be patient.

3. Implement Strategies Outside of Therapy

Apply the strategies and tools discussed in therapy to your daily lives outside of the therapy sessions. Actively incorporate healthier communication patterns, conflict resolution techniques, and intimacy-building activities into your relationship. Consistent practice and application will help solidify positive changes and reinforce the progress made in therapy.

During your sessions, your therapist will help facilitate respectful and effective communication and give you tools to get the same results at home. But it is up to YOU to use these tools at home. Your relationship will not be “fixed” during the one hour sessions we have together, it will be fixed from the work you both do on your own time. The point of therapy is to learn how to navigate obstacles and conflict as they arise in everyday life outside of the therapist’s office.

There are many great resources for couples to explore outside of the therapy room.  Here are a few of my favourites:

Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson

An Emotionally Focused Workbook for Couples

The Real Imhoffs Podcast

4. Maintain Realistic Expectations

Couples therapy is not a magical fix that instantly resolves all issues. It is a process that takes time and effort. Be patient with yourself, your partner, and the therapy process. Understand that progress may come in small steps and setbacks are normal. Trust the process and stay committed to the journey of growth and improvement.


Couples therapy provides a valuable opportunity for couples to strengthen their relationship, resolve conflicts, and enhance their overall well-being. By being open, committed, and actively engaging in the therapy process, you and your partner can maximize the benefits and create lasting positive changes in your relationship. Embrace the support and guidance of a qualified couples therapist and embark on a journey of growth and transformation.

Remember, couples therapy is an investment in your relationship and your future together. Embrace the opportunity to nurture and strengthen your connection, and watch your relationship thrive.

If you and your partner are ready to enhance the level of intimacy in your relationship and strengthen your bond, Restore Renew Revive counselling & couples therapy is here to support you. Our experienced therapist specialize in helping couples overcome challenges, improve communication, and deepen their intimacy.

Take the first step towards a more connected and fulfilling relationship by calling us today at 902-702-7722 to schedule a consultation. You can also visit our website at to learn more about our services and how we can assist you on your journey to greater intimacy.

Don’t let distance or barriers hold you back from improving your relationship. At Restore Renew Revive counselling & couples therapy, we offer online sessions for clients living in Nova Scotia and New Brunswick, providing you with convenience and flexibility.

Invest in your relationship and discover the transformative power of couples therapy. Contact Restore Renew Revive counselling & couples therapy today to embark on a path towards a stronger, more intimate connection.


Marcy is a Clinical Social Worker in Halifax, NS who specializes in helping women who are struggling with anxiety, people pleasing, perfectionism and low self esteem cope more effectively.  She also works with new moms who are experiencing challenges with the transition to parenthood and with people who experience chronic illness.  In addition she specialized in helping couples who are struggling in their relationship to learn to communicate more effectively and rebuild intimacy in their relationships.  If you’d like to book a free 15 minute consultation with Nancy click here. Or call (902) 702-7722 to schedule.

Marcy Daniels MSW, RSW

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