How to Help a Loved One After a Miscarriage


Experiencing a miscarriage is a devastating and emotionally challenging event for any couple. The pain and grief that follow can be overwhelming, leaving them feeling isolated and unsure of how to navigate their loss. As a caring friend or family member, it’s crucial to provide the right support and understanding during this difficult time. However, knowing how to help and offer comfort may be a daunting task. In this article, we will discuss how best to support a loved one after a miscarriage and provide guidance on how to be there for them in their journey of healing and recovery.

Understanding Grief and Emotions

Miscarriage can evoke a range of intense emotions, including sadness, anger, guilt, and confusion. It’s essential to recognize that everyone grieves differently, and there is no “right” way to feel. Allow your loved one the space to express their emotions and validate their feelings without judgment. Be patient and understanding, as the grieving process may take time as you help support your loved one after a miscarriage.

Offering Empathy and a Listening Ear

One of the most powerful ways to support a loved one after a miscarriage is to be a compassionate listener. Create a safe and non-judgmental environment for them to share their thoughts and feelings. Let them know that you are there to listen whenever they need to talk, whether it’s immediately after the loss or in the weeks and months that follow.

Respecting Their Privacy and Boundaries

While it’s important to offer support, it’s equally crucial to respect their need for privacy and personal space. Some individuals may prefer to grieve privately, while others may feel comforted by sharing their experience with trusted friends and family. Respect their boundaries and follow their lead regarding how much they want to share about their loss.

Providing Practical Support

Practical support can be immensely helpful during this challenging time. Offer specific assistance such as preparing meals, running errands, or helping with household chores. By taking care of some of their daily responsibilities, you can alleviate some of the stress and allow your loved one to focus on healing both physically and emotionally.

Avoiding Hurtful or Insensitive Comments

Be mindful of your words and avoid making insensitive or hurtful comments. It’s important to steer clear of phrases like “it was meant to be” or “you can try again.” Instead, offer words of empathy, such as “I’m so sorry for your loss” or “I’m here for you.” Simply acknowledging their pain can provide comfort and validation. Being sensitive with your comments is critical to helping a loved one after a miscarriage.

Remembering Important Dates

Miscarriage anniversaries and due dates can be especially challenging for those who have experienced pregnancy loss. Make an effort to remember these significant dates and reach out to your loved one during those times. A simple message or gesture can show them that you care and that their loss is not forgotten.

Encouraging Professional Support

Suggesting professional support, such as counseling or support groups, can be beneficial for someone navigating the complexities of pregnancy loss. These resources offer a safe space for individuals to process their emotions, share their experiences, and connect with others who have gone through similar situations. Encourage your loved one to seek out these resources if they feel it would be helpful.

Postpartum Support /international offers wonderful support groups for women who have experienced loss

There are also some great podcasts on pregnancy loss

The Miscarriage Therapist

Beyond the Loss

Sisters in Loss

Confessions of a Grieving Mother


If you’re seeking compassionate support and guidance to help you navigate the emotional journey of coping with miscarriage or infertility, look no further than Restore Renew Revive counselling & couples therapy. Marcy is certified in perinatal mental health (PMH-C) and can provide you with the understanding and care you need during this challenging time.

Give us a call today at 902-702-7722 to schedule an appointment and take the first step towards healing. Visit our website at to learn more about our services and how we can support you and your partner on your path to recovery.

Remember, you don’t have to face this alone. Let Restore Renew Revive be your trusted partner in finding solace, strength, and renewed hope. Reach out to us today

Marcy is a Clinical Social Worker in Halifax, NS who specializes in helping women who are struggling with anxiety, people pleasing, perfectionism and low self esteem cope more effectively.  She also works with new moms who are experiencing challenges with the transition to parenthood and with people who experience chronic illness.  In addition she specialized in helping couples who are struggling in their relationship to learn to communicate more effectively and rebuild intimacy in their relationships.  If you’d like to book a free 15 minute consultation with Nancy click here. Or call (902) 702-7722 to schedule.

Marcy Daniels MSW, RSW

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