Things to Discuss Before Marriage:The Importance of Premarital Counselling


Things to Discuss Before Marriage: The Importance of Premarital Counselling

Marriage is a significant milestone in a person’s life, and it marks the beginning of a lifelong commitment between two individuals. However, many couples often underestimate the importance of having open and honest discussions about various aspects of their relationship and future together.

Let’s face it, not seeing eye to eye with someone you care about is unsettling and doesn’t feel good. For this reason people in the “honeymoon stage” of their relationship may shy away from these hard topics or downplay their feelings about the significance of them to avoid disagreements. And that’s exactly why premarital counseling is so beneficial.

By initiating these conversations in a guided and supportive environment, couples can establish a solid foundation and set realistic expectations for their marriage. Premarital counseling helps couples identify and address potential areas of conflict before those issues have a chance to turn into serious problems. Couples also learn effective communication skills and conflict resolution strategies.

7 Important Things to Discuss in Premarital Counselling

1. Values and Beliefs

Understanding each other’s values and beliefs is a fundamental aspect of any relationship. Discuss your religious and spiritual beliefs, as well as your moral and ethical values. Explore how these beliefs will impact your daily lives, decision-making, and potential conflicts that may arise. It is important to find common ground and ensure that your values align to prevent future conflicts.

2. Goals and Aspirations

Take the time to discuss your individual and shared goals and aspirations. Talk about your career ambitions, financial objectives, and personal dreams. Explore how you can support each other’s goals and create a plan to achieve them together. It is vital to have a shared vision of the future and work towards it as a team.

3. Communication and Conflict Resolution

Premarital counselling provides a safe space for couples to address communication styles, emotional expression, and conflict resolution strategies. Communication is a vital part of a healthy relationship, but is something most people don’t have modelled for them in their families of origin and don’t study in school. By learning effective communication techniques and conflict resolution skills, couples can enhance their ability to navigate challenges and maintain healthy dialogue in their marriage.

4. Finances

Money matters are a common source of conflict in marriages. Premarital counseling sessions can help couples openly discuss their financial situations, attitudes towards money, and financial goals. By exploring topics such as budgeting, saving, and financial responsibilities, couples can develop a shared approach to managing their finances, minimizing financial stress, and promoting financial harmony in their marriage.

5. Family and Children

Through premarital counselling, couples can discuss their expectations and desires regarding starting a family. Conversations can delve into topics such as desired number of children, parenting styles, and the balance between career and family life. A counselor can provide guidance on navigating potential challenges and facilitating healthy discussions about extended family relationships.

6. Intimacy and Emotional Needs

Premarital counselling offers a supportive environment to address intimacy and emotional needs within the relationship. Couples can openly discuss their expectations, desires, and concerns, enabling them to build a strong emotional connection and maintain a fulfilling intimate relationship over time.

7. Roles and Responsibilities

Through guided discussions in premarital counseling, couples can explore the division of household chores, responsibilities, and expectations for each partner’s role in the marriage. These conversations provide an opportunity to openly communicate expectations, find a balance that works for both partners, and foster a harmonious household environment.

Prepare-Enrich Premarital Counselling

What does premarital counselling at Restore Renew Revive entail? I am trained both as an Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist and as a Prepare Enrich Facilitator.  For premarital counselling I primarily use the Prepare Enrich program which is a widely recognized premarital counselling program designed to help couples prepare for marriage, strengthen their relationship, and build a solid foundation for a successful future together. It provides couples with a comprehensive assessment tool and resources to facilitate meaningful discussions on various aspects of their relationship.

The Prepare Enrich program involves an online assessment that covers key areas such as communication, conflict resolution, financial management, family dynamics, and personal expectations. The assessment provides insights into the couple’s strengths and areas for growth, helping them gain a deeper understanding of each other and their relationship dynamics.

Based on the assessment results, couples then work with me through a series of structured exercises and discussions which is where I draw on my years of experience as an EFT couples therapist to help guide and facilitate these conversations. These sessions aim to address specific areas of concern, build effective communication skills, and equip couples with practical tools to navigate challenges that may arise in their marriage.

The Prepare Enrich program focuses on promoting open and honest communication, enhancing problem-solving abilities, and fostering empathy and understanding between partners. It encourages couples to explore their values, beliefs, and goals, allowing them to align their expectations and establish a strong foundation for their life together. It provides a structured and supportive environment for couples to have important conversations and develop strategies to navigate the complexities of married life.


Premarital counseling offers couples the opportunity to have meaningful discussions about crucial aspects of their relationship before marriage. By engaging in this process, couples can gain valuable insights, improve their communication and conflict resolution skills, and establish a strong foundation for a fulfilling and successful marriage. Investing in premarital counselling can significantly contribute to the long-term happiness and satisfaction of the couple, setting them on a path for a thriving lifelong partnership.

If you and your partner are preparing for marriage and want to ensure a strong and healthy foundation, consider seeking professional premarital counseling from Restore. Renew. Revive. Counselling & Couples Therapy. Our experienced social worker, Marcy Daniels, is dedicated to supporting couples as they navigate important conversations and prepare for a successful marriage.

To schedule an appointment or learn more about our services, contact us at 902-702-7722 or visit our website at Our team is here to help you restore, renew, and revive your relationship as you embark on this exciting journey together.



Marcy is a Clinical Social Worker in Halifax, NS who specializes in helping women who are struggling with anxiety, people pleasing, perfectionism and low self esteem cope more effectively.  She also works with new moms who are experiencing challenges with the transition to parenthood and with people who experience chronic illness.  In addition she specialized in helping couples who are struggling in their relationship to learn to communicate more effectively and rebuild intimacy in their relationships.  If you’d like to book a free 15 minute consultation with Nancy click here. Or call (902) 702-7722 to schedule.

Marcy Daniels MSW, RSW

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